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The boy's SIL ((the one who got married last month) is pregnant!! She broke the news to me last week even though her hubs didn't want anyone to know yet because she's only now 5 weeks along. But she tells me everything and we're practically sisters anyways....but yay!!! I am so excited and happy for her especially because she's older (38) and has always been sort of frail so all of us have secretly been worried that she'd have trouble conceiving. It nearly broke my heart when she called this baby her little blessing because she had been worrying & praying as well and she got pregnant on their first try!

She told me that when she told her hubs, after taking a home pregnancy test, his reaction was not what she had expected. Instead of being happy, he had this intense look of fear on his face. And he was quiet and worried the rest of the night. She told me afterwards that she was just so crushed by that but that night, SHE comforted HIM. I know it's scary to have a baby. Probably more so for a guy. And I know babies are expensive. But it pissed me off that he couldn't have had a better attitude about it and totally ruined the good news. I don't blame him for his intial reaction of being scared. But dude, slap a smile on that face and be happy with your wife. Girls, how did your husbands react when you broke the news to them?

Anyways we are praying for a safe pregnancy and a healthy baby. She's already very tired with constant back pains so I worry about her. If anyone could recommend some good baby books or other essential pregnancy things, that would be great!

Don't you hate it when you fight with your boy and it's totally HIS FAULT but you have to take him to the airport and you're still mad but as he gets out the car he kisses you and tells you he loves you (but he hasn't apologized yet so you are still mad) and then you watch him walk away and your mind starts imagining all crazy kinds of shit like, what if the plane crashes and this is the last time I see him and I sent him off like that??? so you text him "I love you too" on your drive back?

Yea I hate that too.

That's Memorial Day BBQ or Massive Drunken BBQ, which I prefer.

The boy and I normally invite 40 people and usually only 20 make it.

This year (due to the recession and noone wanting to travel, me thinks) EVERYONE showed up.

But it was cool. We were well prepared, thanks to our nagging everyone to RSVP in time.

I asked K the DJ to bring some music (CD's or iPod, specifically) and he brought his equipment and played tunes.....FOR 10 HOURS! I love that guy.

The boy spent 8-10 hours smoking baby back ribs and brisket....and it took about 8-10 MINUTES for everyone to devour them. Good job hun! So proud of you =)

Our 2009 MMDBBQ lasted from 4pm - 5:30am the next morning. Yep, you read that right...13 and a half hours. I think we set a record.

Just wait for 4th of July.

So, the boy's brother is getting married on Saturday. I'm the MOH/wedding planner since I am close to the fiancee. The couple has been planning to have a family dinner on Thursday before the wedding. It was to consists of the couple, the boy & I, boy's aunt (from his late mother's side, coming from Korea on Wednesday), Dad (boy's father), Dad's family friend & wife, fiancee's mom, fiancee's sister, brother in law & 2 kids. The plan was to have it at a nice restaurant for the 2 families' first meeting.

Now Dad is INSISTING that the dinner be at the brother/fiancee's house. Now what does this entail? Since it's a weekday and everyone works, who is left to cook? That's right, the fiancee's mom. Who just arrived from Korea on Friday. Whom Dad has never met. Uh....right way to start off a first meeting? I think not.

Dad is not the easiest person to get along with. Or even talk to. He doesn't have the best social manners. He's prone to childish tantrums. I've accepted that a long time ago. It took him a YEAR to say my name. And the boy and his brother don't have the best relationship with him and when the boy has complained about his father in the past, I've always tried to speak up for Dad or to convince the boy to be more understanding. It is his father after all and the whole Korean-respecting-one's-elder thing is ingrained deep in me.

But after hearing this turn of events from the fiancee today, it got me really angry. Dad had been so against the couple (more so, the fiancee) from the start. I won't even go into how long it took him to accept them getting married. And while he's been against her and the whole relationship from the beginning, now he wants to take over a lot of the wedding decisions. 

The 4 of us (me, the boy, the brother & fiancee) really don't understand why he's insisting on the family dinner happening this way and why he's being so impolite and thoughtless towards the fiancee's family. Oh and in addition to that, when the fiancee was listing who was to be at the dinner and got to my name, he said, "She doesn't need to be there." Needless to say the boy was furious and I was surprised & hurt. I didn't want to go after that but the fiancee wanted me there and also reminded me that I need to be there for the boy's aunt who expects to see me there as well. 

With the wedding only 5 days away, I was beginning to feel a little stressed with all the planning and last minute worries but this just threw me for a loop. I really don't understand why Dad needs to act like this and cause friction between the family. I feel bad for the fiancee who has been nothing but polite and caring towards him in spite of how he's been to her.  

Dear J & unni,

PLEASE talk to each other before telling me what to do so that you guys aren't telling me conflicting things! Your wedding is a little over a week away and I am working real hard on making everything work out right, down to the last detail. Don't add to the craziness! You guys are like family & I love ya but I swear I want to hurt both of you right now.

-me

I wonder if this situation would be better or worse with actual clients that are not friends or family?

It's Passion Week and I'm fasting as I do every year but this year doesn't seem to be as difficult. I'm still constantly thinking about food but I'm feeling less physical hunger. Maybe cuz I'm older and heavier now, that my body is relying on its reserved fat. Haha!

I found some scratches on the outside snap of my only 14 months old LV wallet today. It looks like a tiny patch of gloss or veneer chipped off =(

Both Tyra Banks and Rachael Ray (on at the same time btw) are talking about sexting on their shows. It totally reminded me of Jdubya and her convo with her hubby and I had to post =D

Edit: Nancy Grace is on with RR. Ugh I can't stand that woman!

I love the holidays. Even though I hate the cold weather of winter, I do love Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas & New Years. And despite not having found a job yet (it's getting quite worrisome in this economy), I am still thankful for many things:

- I've at least found some consulting work. Every dollar helps!

- The boy has found work too although there is a distinct possibility that work may take him to either Boston or SF. I try to convince him that we should move to the west coast (sunshine!) but he's not biting. =T

- Family that has been helping me financially even though they're not that well off either.

- I'll be in Korea 12/03 - 12/14. My generous uncle got me a ticket with his miles. I had accepted that I wouldn't be seeing my grandmother this year but my uncle came through.

- Loving family & friends. I know it sounds so cliche but I really do have a great close relationship with my family and those quality friends who mean so much to me.

- After some struggles the past few months, the boy and I have been communicating more and have gotten closer. It's so corny but it's like I'm falling in love with him again. =P *gag gag* It's that time of the month...of course I'm overly sentimental.

Congrats to the new mommies and soon to be mommy and happy turkey day to everyone! =)

Oh online world,

I have much to say but don't know how to start.

Guess this is how it is when you've been away for so long.

Maybe we'll start with how I'm feeling now...

Angry, neglected, taken for granted....

Seems like a good start

I'm PMS'ing so that must be why I watched 3 incredibly sappy movies in the past 3 days. Sense & Sensibility on Monday, P.S. I Love You yesterday and Romeo & Juliet today.

Is it unrealistic to wonder about love like that in real life?

I know he loves me, I do, but being the alpha-I'm-too-tough-for-feelings-man that he is, part of me wants to marry this boy and have his babies and part of me wonders if more passion and movie love is needed.

I wonder how you married girls do it, especially those who married your boys so quickly. How did you know?